Nothing But The Truth

We must be attractive in order to attract success. People like people like themselves. That's why birds of a feather flock together.

If you want to attract people who are honest and of integrity, you must first be a person of integrity. Build a character that reflects from the inside out the type of people you want to be surrounded with.

In order to be a person of integrity, we must be true to ourselves. Telling the truth is part of building a character of integrity and being authentic. Telling the truth does not only mean you should not lie. It includes being honest and saying that you believe something is wrong or wouldn't work even if it puts you in an uncomfortable position. For example, if you see an injustice and you keep quiet and not do anything to make things right, you're just as guilty. You're not being true to yourself. You're not acting like someone of integrity.

Telling the truth includes facing the reality about yourself or your situation. You're not telling the truth and you're not being honest with yourself if you're in denial. Example: "I haven't put on weight, this dress just shrunk a bit when I did the laundry last week". Well... may be that's not the best example of denial, but I think you get it.

Now be honest with yourself. Is there anything you're not telling the truth about? Make a list and then ask yourself what you can do about it.

Honouring you agreements and commitments is also key to building character. Have you ever been in a situation where you felt let down or disappointed when someone did not keep his/her word? Other people would probably feel the same if you don't honour your agreements.

Make commitments sparingly. Think carefully about whether you have the time, energy and resources to keep your commitments. Learn to say "No". You'd probably have to say no more often. When you do commit yourself, under commit and over deliver.

I end this note with this quote:
"I don't want any yes-men around me.
I want everyone to tell me the truth
even if it costs them their jobs."
-Samuel Goldwyn