Why Hasn't It Happened?

"To live is the rarest thing in the world.
Most people exist, that is all."
-Oscar Wilde

I received an email from a reader who asked me if the law of attraction really works. She had been depressed for a while and often imagines herself dying of a terminal disease. If law of attraction is a real thing, why is she still alive?

I honestly don't know the answer to that question. As far as law of attraction is concerned, I can only speak of it in terms my personal experience. Does it work for me? It certainly has.

I knew that if I wanted to change my life, something has to change. I have to learn new things, move out of my comfort zone, and find the courage to do what I've never done before.

After watching the movie "The Secret" and reflecting on my life, everything that happened (and didn't happen) suddenly made sense. I suddenly understood the reason for my successes and failures. I understood why I underachieved when I could have done better.

I wrote in a previous post that thinking and wishing is not enough to change your life. The first step is deciding what you want. The next step is taking small, baby steps each day that will get you closer to your goal. Wishful thinking alone is not going to get you there. Many people want to be a millionaire but only a handful of them do. Why? Those who become millionaires did what need to be done to achieve their goals while the majority simply dream of becoming millionaires.

Life is short. We can choose to do something significant with our life or we can choose to waste it. The choice is yours. If you think you life is bad, start counting your blessings.

Last December, I wrote about my visit to a children center that was founded to help underprivileged children. After seeing the children there and what they had to go through, whatever problems I thought I had seems so trivial.

We can go through life blaming others for our hardship and misfortunes. We can play the victim role. Or we can choose to take charge of our life and turn it around.

What do you want to do?

"You don't get to choose how you're going
to die. Or when. You can only decide
how you're going to live. Now."
-Joan Bacz

How Many Successes Have You Had?

If you focus on something, it becomes your reality. If you focus on how much debt you have, you will accumulate more debt. You create more of what you focus on.

In order to turn your life around, you need to focus on the positive aspects of your life. Acknowledging and recognising your positive past, successes, and your current progress can make a huge difference in achieving you goals.

Here's what you can do to acknowledge your successes. Divide your life into 3 phases. For example, if you're 30 years old, the first phase of your life is between the age of 0 - 10, the second phase is between the age of 11 - 20, and the most recent phase is between the age of 21 to the present.

For each phase, list 3 successes that you had. It needn't be something big like winning a Nobel prize. It could be something as simple as tying your shoe laces on your own for the first time, or learning to ride the bicycle, or getting your driving licence.

After you've done that, make a list of 100 successes that you've had. Yes, one hundred - 100. Why? Because when you start keeping score of your successes, it keeps you motivated to work towards your goal.

Remind yourself of your successes by placing visual reminders in your environment - trophies, awards, pictures, and any objects that can remind you of the successes.

Do this simple exercise and it will serve as a motivation to propel you towards more successes.

Keep score of all aspects of your life - financial, career/business, free time, health, relationships, personal and community/contribution.

In case you're wondering, I have 25 on my list. And I know I will have many more. :-)